Marriage...Again & Again & Again
You know those Hollywood hunks and hunkettes? The ones we grow up admiring and desiring to be like? The ones our kids and grandkids know all about? According to the Chicago Sun-Times, Hollywood's stars have given us another reason they shouldn't be our role models. You see, of the 200 most popular Hollywood stars (Internet Movie Database), 51% of them have been divorced. Us mere mortals divorce at a 31% rate.
We read all the time about Hollywood breakups and rumors of Hollywood breakups...usually while standing in the checkout line of our favorite grocer. Maybe the tabloids are right! Not about aliens abducting Elvis, but about the lack of commitment to marriage in Hollywood. In fact, some wedding vows are taking a more "realistic" bent by replacing the traditional "'til death do us part" for "as long as our love shall last." Of course, some love ends before the ink is dry on the pre-nup!
Throughout the years of doing weddings, premarital counseling, and marital counseling, I've tried to help couples see the difference between emotional love and commitment. Emotional love is a fickle thing. It's what keeps someone from commitment because they reason, "What if I marry this person and then find my soulmate?" I can fall in and out of love in a moment's notice.
Commitment says that my will is more important than my emotions. When Adam saw Eve for the first time, he didn't speak of her beauty in poetic terms, nor gush about how she made him feel. He didn't even say he loved her. Adam said, "This one, at last, is bone of my bone, and flesh of my flesh; this one will be called woman, for she was taken from man." (Genesis 2:23 HCSB) In today's world, that wouldn't quite sweep a woman off her feet. But, Adam and Eve were married for centuries!
Here's hoping that the church will take its rightful place in society as salt and light within the home. May our culture see men and women committed to each other for a lifetime and when they do, may they see marriage as a reflection of the commitment Jesus Christ has for the church.
We read all the time about Hollywood breakups and rumors of Hollywood breakups...usually while standing in the checkout line of our favorite grocer. Maybe the tabloids are right! Not about aliens abducting Elvis, but about the lack of commitment to marriage in Hollywood. In fact, some wedding vows are taking a more "realistic" bent by replacing the traditional "'til death do us part" for "as long as our love shall last." Of course, some love ends before the ink is dry on the pre-nup!
Throughout the years of doing weddings, premarital counseling, and marital counseling, I've tried to help couples see the difference between emotional love and commitment. Emotional love is a fickle thing. It's what keeps someone from commitment because they reason, "What if I marry this person and then find my soulmate?" I can fall in and out of love in a moment's notice.
Commitment says that my will is more important than my emotions. When Adam saw Eve for the first time, he didn't speak of her beauty in poetic terms, nor gush about how she made him feel. He didn't even say he loved her. Adam said, "This one, at last, is bone of my bone, and flesh of my flesh; this one will be called woman, for she was taken from man." (Genesis 2:23 HCSB) In today's world, that wouldn't quite sweep a woman off her feet. But, Adam and Eve were married for centuries!
Here's hoping that the church will take its rightful place in society as salt and light within the home. May our culture see men and women committed to each other for a lifetime and when they do, may they see marriage as a reflection of the commitment Jesus Christ has for the church.
posted by Mike at 3:47 PM
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